Monday, October 19, 2009

Weddings and Marriage....

*Disclaimer...this post is not me bragging...Just some random thoughts brought up recently....
A pic from that "other" wedding..

We recently were invited to attend a wedding that will take place near my husband's hometown. It is this coming weekend. I can freely admit that I love weddings! I love watching 2 people in love sharing their special union with the ones they love. I love the food, the dancing, the cake!! Now I don't know the people getting married that well. I know the groom cause my hubby used to work with him, and he is the brother of a gal/couple that we are friends with. But recently we went to another wedding....Neither one of us wanted to go to it,(it was far away, and it came at a time when there were other things we wanted to do)....but we did cause Cory was an Usher...that was in August...well now we are hearing that they are already getting divorced because she cheated on's just sad. I don't think people take marriage seriously anymore. I don't know about you, but when I made my vows before God and my husband, I promised both of them that I was in it for life! Obviously I believe that there are reasons for divorce. Like abuse...physical, mental, emotional, unfaithfulness(even though some strong folks can work through this if they really work hard.

I honestly believe that my husband and I have the best marriage out of all the married people I know. It is hard work everyday! But anyone can have that..if they WORK at it. My husband would give up anything to be with his family. But I also know that he needs time to be a guy, and hang with other men. I do not want to be the wife that keeps their husband locked up with her ALL the time! I do admit that I have been that person in the past, but am working to NOT be that wife anymore!! Also us wives have to know that our husbands, not us, are the leaders in our homes. We need to trust THEIR judgement when it comes to knowing what is good for the family. I have always said that I would move anywhere with Cory, if he truly thought that it was best for us.(In fact we have moved 5 times in our 7 years of marriage)! I didn't want to move a couple of those times, but it ended up best for us! It says in the Bible "But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ. " 1 Cor 11:3.

I am the mushy wife who calls her hubby lots everyday! I just want him to know that I love him. And believe me, I know how lucky I am. We have been through so much together, and I often say that Cory "saved me" when we met. I could go on and on about this, but I think we need to listen to our husbands needs more often as wives. I am trying to think of new ways everyday to be a "submissive wife", and give more to my husband. We are doing a Bible study together, and Financial Peace University. Those 2 things alone give us more time together learning more about what God wants for us, and about the Godly relationship we need to strive to have. I also love the Internet..if you really know me, you already know that, but I recently heard from a friend that some people are online for like 8 hours a day!! Can you imagine? When I heard that I instantly cut back on my online time. Yes I do work online for my business Blue Bug Shoes, but now I have more time for my husband and children. I am feeling quite guilty doing this post right now cause I am not using this time for my children.(But in my defense I do have the

that "other" wedding was beautiful!!
~ Is their something you do with your husband that could also help me?..(totally looking for non sexual answers here...lolololol)
~ Is their a recent couples devotional that you love?
~ You can totally use this time to brag on your hubby(significant other, wife) if you so choose!!

Ok, so that was just a random rant that has been going through my mind!......


Vaughn Family Chaos said...

Great post. People do not take the union of marriage seriously anymore. We have friends that are dropping off like flies in their marriages. IT IS SAD!!
J and I adore each other and divorce is NOT AN OPTION for us. It is hard work!!!! But, it is hard work that we will continue to strive at everyday!!

Cortney @ said...

J and I have been have similar discussions because more than half of the people we grew up with is divorced or getting divorced (we went to a christian school). It is sad and SCARY to think what can happen and it makes me very grateful to have such an amazing man that I married!! It is work though!! A lot of work!
And it's okay to brag once in awhile, silly!!

Anonymous said...

I think if the couple are truly best friends who have a love for the Lord then it really isnt "hard" work although every friendship has its ups and downs. Too many parents put kids or work or 'other' things first and their marriage suffers over the years. We are aware of that and make a point to schedule weekend get-aways and date nights to reconnect with one another. Take care of the marriage and the rest falls into place.

Anonymous said...

You and your man do have a great relationship! He is so very patient. :) My love is my very best friend, and he challenges me. Not because he's mean, but because we challenge each other to be better Godly people.
We sit and cuddle on the couch every night after everything with the house is finished. It's free and let's us be close.