Case in point this picture...when I look at it, I think they- are my babies, and I am their mama! But I am also someone that I forget about...Kristan.....not mom, or honey,babe,mom mom...or anything else I get called regularly...
I think as parents(especially moms) we don't make enough time for ourselves...we often feel guilty having a little "me" time. We should be making dinner, doing the laundry, cleaning the house, satisfying my husband..reading books to my kids, and helping them learn their ABC's...you get my drift don't ya?? I very rarely take anytime for myself. In fact most of the time I criticize other moms for dumping their kids off the first chance they get to hang out with their "girls", or their hubby, or just going to the store alone! I never used to need time alone! I am always perfectly happy being with my hubby, but these days a girl just needs a quiet moment to gather her thoughts!
Sometimes I get so frustrated because I feel like I've lost a part of myself. I went to college, I used to read, I love to ride Horses, I like to fish, jeez, I even like to push mow!! Growing up I loved sports. I played softball, soccer,ran cross country, track, and was a cheerleader. I love to sing, and have had a guitar for over a year and have yet to take time for myself to learn how to play it!!!!! But since having my babies I have lost some parts of myself!! I would love to get them back except for the single fact that I have changed. I still love to do all those things, but I love my family more than my "me" time. We all go to the grocery store together! Why, you might ask? Because that's part of our "family" time together!! We don't get a lot of time to spend all together, so I don't waste 1 second of it! Also I think it's a teachable time for my kids, about how to learn and behave in public! Yes it definitely can be stressful at times, but it can also be FUN!! Anyway, I'm getting off my subject here...
I am still learning how to be a wife/mom/sister/daughter/and whoever else, and still be ME! I guess I'm not good at balancing...I would love to start doing the kinds of things I love again, so my children see that part of me! I love my girls, and I want them to never feel lost as I have myself here lately!!
How do you stay "yourself" and not get lost being a mom/wife/???? I would love some tips!
4 comments:
I think we all go through this at some point. We are so focused on doing the best job we can as mothers that we lose ourselves along the way. I'm guilty of putting my families needs ahead of my own. I look at it this way though, your kids are only little for so long and in a blink of an eye they are grown and don't need you as much so I am happy to give all my attention up because once they leave the "nest" I will have plenty of me time :o)
I have been feeling very much the same way lately. I think we all go through it at some point during motherhood (and probably more often than once). Good luck figuring out how to balance everything and if you find the trick, let me know!
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I know that for me personally, I am a better mom when I have had some "me" time. I feel more patient, playful, and attentive when I have had some time alone~even if its only running a few errands! It gives me a chance to clear my head too. I'm sure my kids appreciate having a more relaxed mom rather than a stressed or tired-all-the-time mom! :)
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